For years, the idea of ‘kink shaming’ has become a bit of a taboo. While once fair game, we have become a far more open sexual society. As such, people with rather unique tastes are no longer treated as pariahs but as people who should be celebrated for being honest. And rightly so. However, this has opened many of our minds up to different forms of sexual play we had never considered. For example, have you heard about Financial Domination – Findom?
Look around online, and you can find many interesting findom site placings that offer the chance to meet a findom of your own. Alternatively, you can easily find a findom site that can teach you how to become a financial dominant if you so choose. Before you go any further with the idea, though, we want to break down some of the typical ideas and misconceptions that exist about financial domination.
Let’s evaluate the truth of financial domination.
How Does Financial Domination Work?
The idea of it is quite simple – a submissive (often called a paypig) will spend their money on their financial dominatrix. This person will humiliate their submissive (in a good way, of course) by spending their money as they please. Some paypigs get off by watching their dominatrix spend their money in front of them or by buying specific things. Others are told what to buy by their dominatrix and get off on doing so.
It changes from person to person, really. The idea, though, is to see their hard-earned money spent in an instant by a woman they are fascinated by. Now, we are sure that there are inverse relationships – well-off women spending money on men to do the same – but this is almost always a process with a male paypig.
Is Financial Domination About Sex?
Not always – in fact, often rarely. While some findoms use their good looks to make their “paypigs” get off, most don’t. It is extremely rare for a financial domination service to involve sexual intercourse. Check any kind of financial domination listing on a findom site, like Findom Meet, and you will see how often the profiles strictly state they will not get involved in sexual interaction.
Some findoms are more open to this and, for example, might buy lingerie or sex toys with their paypigs money. They then might show the paypig this stuff in use, either on their own or with someone else. Every agreement is different, but most people who engage in financial domination look to avoid sex being a primary part of the agreement.
What Is The Satisfaction, Then?
Not everything is about sex, even though this is primarily sold as a ‘sex work’ service. It is about giving up control. Many of the people out there who are paypigs spend all day with pressure up to their eyeballs. They make decisions all day and usually wield a lot of power in their professional lives. They might even have a relationship where they are the primary decision-makers. Being in charge, though, is tiring!
So, being able to totally liberate themselves from all of that decision-making can be a real turn-on. They get a kick out of two things here—losing control and being told what to do. There is also the beneficial kick of watching all of their hard work disappear on purchases they did not choose. Given that most of these people are in charge of large budgets day-to-day, losing that control can be a real thrill.
So, Is It About A Loss of Control?
For the most part, yes. There is also the liberation that these people work for so many hours per day, every week, to make lots of money. They often have too much money – so much they can be willing to throw large sums at their findom. Being able just to lose that ability to say yes or no and to watch their money disappear on whatever their financial dominatrix desires is a real thrill for a lot of people.
Findom sites are filled with a dominatrix who is clear about what they want their paypig to buy them. Others are more open to letting the paypig decide, so long as they get something worthwhile in return.
How Do I Find a Paypig or Findom?
The best place to start is to look online at places like Findommeet.com – many forms of findom sites exist, though. You should be looking for a place that lets you meet the right person, whether it is a paypig to buy you stuff or a findom to spend your money. Look around online, though – this is your best bet for finding a community. You are highly unlikely to stumble upon a community locally, so search online for the best chance of finding a findom/paypig.